Stress can either motivate you or crush you.
Feeling stressed out is a common problem, even everyday life can be stressful and it can be hard to admit when we’re struggling. We all want to live happy successful lives, we want to feel fulfilled, but it can be difficult to cope with some problems leaving us feeling overwhelmed or anxious. Stress management is often ignored yet it’s one of the most important ways to improve your health and prevent disease.
Work out what makes you feel too stressed and why.
We can experience different degrees of stress depending on our outlook and circumstances. Many of us just try to carry on as normal when we’re going through difficult times, often suffering in silence.
One person’s stress is another persons drive or motivation and our perception of stress differs greatly. We all have our limits and we need to recognise those limits too. When there’s difficulties at work or at home it can cause even the most relaxed person to worry. We need to be kinder to ourselves during these difficult times.
Are your worries real or imagined?
Worry and stress can become a negative habit, especially if your situation has been difficult for a long time, but its a bad habit that can be broken. With patience, a little insight and daily work you can actually learn how to stop being stressed even when your situation is still the same. It is not always possible to alter what is going on at work or at home and we can’t change other people but we can always change the way we respond to stress. Some worries are valid and real but others are just future predictions of doom that are imagined and need to be ignored. Try to think about which category your worries fit into.
Simple steps everyday can reduce your stress.
Unfortunately there’s no magic cure for life’s difficulties but some simple steps every day can reduce your stress and help to increase your confidence. All you have to do is choose a few of the positive points below that you can relate to and practice them daily. See how you feel after a couple of weeks, you should have gained more control over your stress and be more aware of your response to stressful situations.
Be kinder to yourself!
Try to see yourself as your own best friend, don’t insult yourself or send yourself negative messages, being kind to yourself and prioritising your health and well-being is an important part of stress management. It helps if you can concentrate more on the positive aspects of your life, even the smallest things count, learning to appreciate them more often.
1) Distraction is good if you are starting to feel anxious eg. making a phone call, sorting out a draw in your home, or writing down how you feel are great way to manage anxious moments.
2) Take 10 slow consecutive deep breaths with your eyes closed if possible.
3) Try counting slowly backwards from 300.
4) Lying down close your eyes and imagine the word RELAX in neon coloured lights then imagine that light filling your heart and helping your muscles relax.
5) Help someone else in any way, big or small, and take the focus off yourself.
6) Remember a place you felt happy and relaxed maybe a garden or a beach it can be real or imaginary and allow yourself to remember good times.
7) Try tensing then relaxing the muscles all over your body working slowly down from your head to your arms, legs and your feet.
8) Do a crossword jigsaw, word search or puzzle of some sort.
9) If you feel anxious you can try eating an ice cube! or a cold apple to distract and change the way you feel.
10) Take a short walk outside if you can, or if not, walk inside the building going up and down the stairs a few times.
If you feel stressed or anxious on a daily basis, or more times than you feel happy and relaxed, it might be a sign that personal management isn’t enough and seeking some outside intervention either in the form of talking therapy, complementary therapy or from your GP might be helpful.